Eimer ~ 1587 days
“When I first met my partner, one of the things that drew me to him was that he didn’t drink. It was so different from what I was used to, and it felt refreshing to meet someone who was completely at ease in himself without needing alcohol in the mix. Our first proper dates were special: long days exploring the coast and picnics in the woods, just the two of us enjoying the moment. There was something very real about it, and I loved that authenticity in him. I still do.
Not long after, I chose to stop drinking myself. At the time, it wasn’t about setting a challenge or proving a point, I just wanted to see how it felt. Then, when I became a mum, everything changed. Holding my daughter for the first time made me realise I didn’t want alcohol to be part of my life anymore. I wanted to be fully present for her, for every smile, every milestone, and all the little everyday moments that matter the most.
These days, I find joy in the smaller things that used to get lost in the background. Sharing a meal with my family, the ritual of a really good flat white and pastry, or even a soft drink that actually tastes amazing feels more than enough. And when I do want that familiar feeling of having a drink in hand, there are plenty of 0% options I enjoy without losing anything the next day.
That doesn’t mean life is suddenly easy. Stress still finds its way in, and there are moments when the easier option would be to switch off with a drink. But I’ve had to learn other ways to cope: yoga, getting outdoors, lifting weights, or sometimes just sitting with the feelings. None of it is perfect, but choosing not to drink has made me feel more grounded. I’m clearer, more organised, and more focused in a way I never quite managed before. At work, that’s opened doors I wouldn’t have imagined for myself, and given me goals that genuinely excite me.
The part I value most, though, is at home. I’m there in a way I know my daughter will remember. As she gets ready to start school, I feel proud that she sees me present and at my best. More than anything, I want her to grow up knowing that life can be full, joyful, and real without needing alcohol to shape it. My family has always been, and will always be, my greatest inspiration.”
