Tom ~ 85 days

“For the longest time, I didn’t have a label for my relationship with alcohol. It wasn’t a problem, it wasn’t an addiction; it was simply… an afterthought. I’ve always been someone who drinks very infrequently. 

If I’m at a social gathering and there’s a compelling non-alcoholic option, I’ll happily choose it. My default has always leaned towards not drinking.

This isn’t from a single event, but from a slow and steady realisation of what I truly value. I absolutely hate hangovers. The thought of a foggy head, a wasted morning, and that lingering feeling of lethargy is something I actively avoid. It’s been years since I’ve had a proper hangover, and I have no intention of breaking that streak.

I think the start of the shift in my perspective began when I started working from home full time in 2019. Suddenly, the line between work and life blurred, and I realised how crucial it was to be more intentional with my free time. I needed activities that would get me up, out of the house, and into the fresh air. 

It became a simple equation: do I want this beer, or do I want to feel ready for my morning run, or dog walk?

My biggest change in perspective came when my son was born. Becoming a dad changed my priorities completely again. My main goal now, above all else, is to be present for him, not just physically, but mentally.

I never really thought of myself as ‘sober curious’ I honestly didn’t know it was a thing… until I was talking about Arclett with my friend, Scott. Hearing him talk about the community he’d founded - a space for people built around adventure, creativity, and genuine connection - allowed me to see my own choices in a new light. 

I wasn't being antisocial or 'boring'. Connecting with other like-minded people, who find their high on a mountaintop, or behind a camera lens, or on a long walk in the outdoors, has been incredibly validating.

So, where am I now? I still have a drink on a very rare occasion, but I find myself seriously considering stopping completely. 

My journey isn't about judgement or restriction. It’s about choosing clarity. It's about ensuring I'm always ready for the next photo opportunity, the next adventure, and most importantly, the next moment with my son.”